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Darlene
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| Tue Mar 25, 2008 5:22 am Question for March 25 |
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Something a little different this time.
If your best friend's hubby/better half was having an affair, and you found out about it, would you tell your friend or just let it be? |
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sarahbendt
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| Thu Mar 27, 2008 4:35 pm |
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| Oh yes I would. You shouldn't get married if you plan on having an affair. If you want to be with more than one person, then stay single! |
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justinsmom
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| Fri Mar 28, 2008 2:36 pm |
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| I would definitely tell her. Let it be her decision what she wants to do about it. |
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Cherl
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| Fri Mar 28, 2008 6:45 pm |
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yes I would tell her.
Cherl |
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taxi22
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| Sun Mar 30, 2008 12:49 am |
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| I would DEFINITELY tell her. She is my best friend! I couldn't face her and know I was withholding something like that! |
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ladijo
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| Sun Mar 30, 2008 1:02 pm |
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I believe that I would tell her but would want to make sure that I have proof. She might be your best friend but that is also her husband and she might chose to believe him.
Jo |
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Darlene
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| Sun Mar 30, 2008 11:59 pm |
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Good answers. Personally I would need to have some proof before I told my friend. I was in this situation before and am thankful I kept my mouth shut.
I was in this both ways. I was one who was being cheated on and one of my best friends told me but I chose not to believe her. In a way I knew it was true but being a newlywed I chose to not believe her. That marriage lasted for 4 years with him running the whole time.
I am in my second marriage now and its perfect. We will celebrate 31 years in May.
The other way I was in this sitation was my other best friend's hubby was running on her. Other people told her but she chose to not believe it. She finally had proof herself and they were divorced withiin the year. So I am glad I never said anything.
It could sometimes ruin a good friendship but other times it could strengthen it so its hard to say what is the right thing to do. |
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Leafgreen
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| Mon Mar 31, 2008 1:04 am |
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I love Darlene's answer, because it shows that there are two (at least) sides to every situation, and sometimes you don't even know that there are other sides. It's hard tho when you are trying to be a supportive friend. Sometimes snitches have egos to feed, in that if you've got gossip, you feel more important when you think the listener values your information highly.
Take care,
Kara |
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taxi22
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| Mon Mar 31, 2008 2:41 am |
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Oh yes! I totally agree with needing proof first. I would not want to just jump up and tell her when it may be nothing more then a rumor or misunderstanding. That would be terrible to be the bearer of news like that and then have it turn out to not be true. I would feel TERRIBLE!
Good question!! |
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Ravish30
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| Mon Mar 31, 2008 5:13 pm |
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| I would tell him/her the truth....especially if I had some type of proof! |
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